Welcome to Waves of Divorce.

As someone who has been through a high-conflict divorce, I understand the challenges you may be facing. My unique blend of clinical expertise and personal experience as a divorced mom informs every step. Over the last 25 years as a licensed psychologist, I have helped clients gain insight and feel empowered to make needed changes. Together, we can work towards meeting your goals and building a positive path forward.

I like to think of divorce as coming in waves.. Some waves may be calm and steady and easy to ride. Others may be higher and more challenging to surpass. Still others may be rough and stormy, may knock you down, and feel like they take your breath away. And no matter what, the waves keep coming.

“We can’t stop the waves from coming,

but we can learn how to surf.”

I will provide you with different strategies and tools to navigate each wave of your divorce. Just like waves of the ocean, divorce waves may overlap, may appear in different orders, or may not be part of your process at all. Here are the most common waves:

Decision Wave: seeking information, exploring options, struggling with ambivalence, and needing guidance to make the best decision under the circumstances. It may also involve figuring out how to communicate your decision to your partner.

The Process Wave: can involve stressful negotiation, mediation, custody evaluations, court appearances, determining your children’s needs, exploring parenting time schedules, resolving conflicts, and reaching a settlement agreement.

Co-parenting Wave: the ideal is building a healthy mom/dad team relationship and learning to navigate raising children in two homes. The reality may involve ongoing stress, conflicts, and children feeling stuck in the middle.

Post-Separation Abuse Wave: may involve ongoing litigation, nasty and/or abusive communication, endless conflicts over the kids, weaponizing the children, financial abuse, and more.

Building Back to Me Wave: a period of reflection and self-discovery. Reconnecting with your authentic self and validating your feelings and needs. May involve making your own decisions, building confidence, education, career changes, and exploring new options for this next chapter.

Dating/New Relationship Wave: learning about healthy relationships, green flags vs red flags, breaking negative relationship patterns, recognizing what you want and need in a relationship, and managing divorce schedules and dating.

Blended Family Wave: navigating the dynamics of bonus parents and bonus children, managing different parenting schedules and parenting styles, and working with the children’s other parents.

Together, we will navigate your divorce waves and focus on the tools you need to thrive.