KERRI GRAFF, PhD, Licensed psychologist

divorce & Co-parenting EXPERT

I believe in the power of new beginnings.

You’re in the right place.

As a licensed psychologist and divorced mom, I bring both professional expertise and lived experience to my work. I specialize in co-parenting, high-conflict divorce, and child-centered parenting plan design. I help parents create practical, developmentally informed solutions that work not just on paper, but in everyday life.

With over 25 years of clinical experience, advanced training in high-conflict divorce, coercive control, and narcissistic dynamics, and certifications in mediation, co-parenting, and parent coordination, I work at the intersection of psychology and divorce. My role is to help parents move beyond crisis and conflict toward clear, sustainable co-parenting solutions that truly work best for their family.

A Perspective Shaped By Lived Experience

I navigated my own high-conflict divorce when my children were young, followed by years of challenging co-parenting, mediation, and family court involvement. Today, my children are thriving young adults and I have built a bright, fulfilling life with my husband and blended family.

This personal journey has given me a deeper understanding of the emotional and practical challenges divorcing families face, as well as what it takes to move forward.

Whether we are working through your individual healing, co-parenting challenges, parenting plan development, or mediation, my goal is to provide both emotional support and practical guidance that helps you create a path forward that supports both you and your children.

Professional Background

I earned my Bachelor’s Degree in Psychology through the Brooklyn College Scholars Program and my Doctorate in Counseling Psychology at the University at Buffalo. I completed an APA-accredited internship at the University of Delaware Center for Counseling and Student Development, and previously served as staff psychologist at the University at Buffalo Counseling Center and as Director of the Day Treatment Program and therapist at the Renfrew Center of New Jersey.

In 2014, I founded the Ocean Waves Wellness Center, a mind-body wellness practice integrating therapy and wellness services. I later transitioned to a primarily telehealth practice and established “Waves of Divorce” to reflect my specialized focus on divorce, co-parenting, and family transitions.

I am a Certified Family and Divorce Mediator, a Certified Co-Parenting Specialist, a Certified Parent Coordinator, and a Certified High Conflict Divorce Coach. I have additional advanced clinician training in coercive control, narcissistic abuse, and the complex dynamics of high-conflict divorce.

I am a licensed psychologist in New Jersey and New York, offering primarily telehealth services. I am authorized through PSYPACT to provide telehealth services to clients in participating states.

My extensive advanced training and personal experiences have shaped my passion in helping others and make me uniquely qualified to help you through all the waves of your divorce.

Outside of work, I love traveling to new places, baking creative desserts, and running along the shore. I find peace near the water, whether its the stillness of a lake or the rhythm of the ocean. That sense of movement and change is central to my perspective. While we can’t change the past, we can learn how to navigate what comes next, with greater clarity, strength, and intention.

Let’s ride it out together.

Divorce and co-parenting are not just emotional experiences, they require difficult decisions, practical tools, and strategies that work in everyday life.

My approach combines emotional support with clear, strategic guidance, drawing on my expertise in psychology, child development, and high-conflict family dynamics. I tailor my work to your unique circumstances, helping you navigate complex challenges, make informed decisions, and develop practical solutions that support you and your children.

Real-life solutions. Not just insight.

How I work

My work integrates psychology, child development, and high-conflict divorce expertise to support families in creating sustainable, real-life solutions.

My Background & Training

Extensive clinical expertise in divorce, co-parenting, and high-conflict family dynamics.

CERTIFICATIONS & ADVANCED TRAINING

  • Certified Divorce and Family Mediator

  • Certified Co-Parenting Specialist

  • Certified Parent Coordinator

  • Clinician Certificate in Coercive Control

  • Certified High Conflict Divorce Coach

  • Certified Clinical Trauma Professional

  • Advanced Training High Conflict Institute

    (New Ways for Families)

  • Healing from Narcissistic Family Systems

    (Dr. Karyl McBride)

  • Training in Narcissistic Abuse and Recovery

    (Dr. Ramani Durvasula)

Education, Licensure, & REACH

  • PhD, Counseling Psychology, 2000

  • Licensed Psychologist, New Jersey

  • Licensed Psychologist, New York

  • PSYPACT Authorized (telehealth across member states)

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